Post on Loyalty vs. Sex

Post to Athol Kay's MMSL forum

Great book, Athol.  I am an avid lifelong reader, and your book stands out as one of the special ones.

Here's something I've been thinking about:

There seems to be a separate energy of fierce loyalty that is distinct from sexual energy,

Yes, sex is very important to maintain a good relationship.  That said, stubborn, heartfelt  loyalty and fidelity  is possible even when sex is over and done with, as in the case of a taking care of a spouse who is enduring a devastating years-long terminal illness.

Certainly, at some point, a sexual relationship can get an added dimension that can continue after the sex is gone.

This reminds me of the energy behind the saying "Once  a Marine, always a Marine."  Hell or highwater would not take you from your platoon's -- or your mate's -- side in time of strife.  In the case of a mate, the loss of the sex would only further cement your loyalty, like  a pit bull's jaws locking on. This would be the time when your love could express itself most fiercely.

A mellower version of this energy can happen in the sunset, post-menopausal years of a relationship.  The sex drive can (will!) ebb -- but, lo and behold, there can still be a strong bond.  Surprise! The sex wasn't everything.

I'd love to see this energy of bondedness and loyalty picked apart and analyzed. It isn't just beta energy calculatingly expended in order to keep the sex flowing over the long haul.  It is a separate energy, not dependent on sex.

In what ways does it relate to Alpha male "game" theory?  One thought in that vein: It would seem that the ability to convey to chicks that you are capable of fierce, unyielding loyalty could help moisten their labia and tease off their trousers.

Throwing open the question. Thoughts?











Great book, Athol.  I am an avid lifelong reader, and your book stands out as one of the special ones.

Here's something I've been thinking about:

There seems to be a separate energy of fierce loyalty that is distinct from sexual energy,

Yes, sex is very important to maintain a good relationship.  That said, stubborn, heartfelt  loyalty and fidelity  is possible even when sex is over and done with, as in the case of a taking care of a spouse who is enduring a devastating years-long terminal illness.

Certainly, at some point, a sexual relationship can get an added dimension that can continue after the sex is gone.

This reminds me of the energy behind the saying "Once  a Marine, always a Marine."  Hell or highwater would not take you from your platoon's -- or your mate's -- side in time of strife.  In the case of a mate, the loss of the sex would only further cement your loyalty, like  a pit bull's jaws locking on. This would be the time when your love could express itself most fiercely.

A mellower version of this energy can happen in the sunset, post-menopausal years of a relationship.  The sex drive can (will!) ebb -- but, lo and behold, there can still be a strong bond.  Surprise! The sex wasn't everything.

I'd love to see this energy of bondedness and loyalty picked apart and analyzed. It isn't just beta energy calculatingly expended in order to keep the sex flowing over the long haul.  It is a separate energy, not dependent on sex.

In what ways does it relate to Alpha male "game" theory?  One thought in that vein: It would seem that the ability to convey to chicks that you are capable of vise grip-tight, unyielding loyalty could help moisten their labia and tease off their trousers.

Throwing open the question. Thoughts?
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